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What can we do to improve the resilience of our children?


we risk too little we live in a world that warns us of danger at every turn.  Toxic. High voltage. Flammable. Slippery when wet. Steep curve ahead. Don't walk.  hazard.  This "safety first" preoccupation emerged over thirty years ago with the Tylenol scare and with children's faces appearing on milk cartons.  We became fearful of losing our kids.  So we put knee-pads, safety belts and helmets on the dinner table.  (Actually I'm just kidding on that one).   But, it's true.  We've insulated our kids from risk. 

Psychologists in Europe have discovered that if a child doesn't play outside and is never allowed to experience a skinned knee or a broken bone, they frequently have phobias as adults.  Interviews with young adults who never played on jungle gyms reveal they're fearful of normal risks.  The truth is, kids need to fall a few times to learn it is normal. 

Taking calculated risks is all a part of growing up.  In fact, it plays a huge role.  Childhood may be about safety and self esteem, but as a student matures, risk and achievement are necessities in forming their identity and confidence.  Because parents have removed "risk" from children's lives.  psychologists are discovering a syndrome as they counsel teens:  High Arrogance, Low Self-Esteem.  They're cock, but deep down their confidence is hallow, because it's built off of watching YouTube videos, and perhaps not achieving something meaningful.   

I can remember taking calculated risks as a kid and I survived.  I will talk further next week on this subject.  I know this might result in a few queries coming my way, however, my strong belief is that it will be a healthy conversation.

David O'Conner

Deputy Principal​